Us and Them

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The world is a runaway train about to jump the tracks and head straight into a deep dark abyss.  There are over six billion souls on board. People from all walks of life; men, women, children. The good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful. People who have it all and those who have nothing. We are all on this runaway train together; whether we asked to be here or not, here we are. And you my friend are at the controls. You didn’t ask for this…you shout to no one in particular:  “I don’t want this, what did I do to deserve this?  Your desperate shouting falls on deaf ears but all eyes are on you…what do you do? Just what do YOU do?

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This is a nightmare scenario my imagination just cooked up.  Of course you are not at the controls and I’m sorry that I put you on the spot like that.


You are probably in the comfort of your cozy home reading this on your computer or electronic device as I am while writing this.  The world, although disjointed is still relatively intact. Odds are we are alright.  It is those other people that are in trouble.  We have nice families and friends, a warm house and full stomach.

Odds are tomorrow we will go off to work or school or somewhere; perhaps to meet someone for coffee or to walk the dog or go shopping or to a show. The world will still be here when we get home back to our nice warm beds. The world has always been here as long as we’ve been alive and for the most part, for most of us, life has been pretty good….

…and so I get back to the runaway train part….haha lulled you into a false sense of security. I bet you thought I might have forgotten about the train and that scary abyss…

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Well here we are and it’s like we are on the train and there is no one at the controls at all. We are all passengers; our fates dangling precariously.  Most of us just want to get along and make it through to our destination, even enjoy the ride a bit, but there is a disturbance…a fight has broken out…

We are a world divided. As polarized as ever. Each side is 100% convinced they are 100% in the right. Pick an issue; any issue, no matter how multi-layered and complex it is and you will get the two sides and each will explain in vivid detail how incredibly wrong the other side is.

I don’t have to tell you, my esteemed and learned friends, how both sides can be wrong: no one can be 100% right on anything. We all know the world is made up of a myriad of colors, shades and hues.  Nothing is all black or all white.

I myself have been guilty of this thinking in the past, actually not so long ago. As many of you have surmised; I come in on the left side politically, to call myself a liberal is not far off the mark and I see nothing wrong with being one. However I am a person who tries to see outside of the neat little boxes that society tends to shove us into.

That being said, there have been times upon hearing a remark coming from “the other side” that I became a wee bit incredulous even to the point of anger. I am not proud of this, but this I do freely admit. I have somewhat of a temper about what I feel passionate about, but there is one thing I try not to be and that is a hypocrite, so I admit here to you and everyone else that in the past I have been angered by some of the things, the other side has put forth. I don’t have to go into what nor do I want to. Most of you have heard some of this stuff and can fill in the blanks. What I am writing here is not to promote my cause or beliefs when it comes to these very hot button issues that we liberals and conservatives are fighting tooth and nail over. This is not at all what I am addressing today.

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The point I am attempting to address is the polarization: the fight-fight-fight till you drop attitude and how it’s not getting anyone anywhere.

Taking governments, corporations and special interest groups out of it, while we are at it lets take the media out too–The “liberal media”, Fox news and what have you.  Lets just address people here. Your average citizen. I am mostly talking about Americans here because being one, I feel I can speak for Americans…but on second thought…maybe I am speaking for us all, because I am a citizen of the world as well as you are…

We are in a state of decay. I think most of us can agree with that and I think most of us can agree that we are divided and that most of us care….care about our communities, our fellow citizens, for the world at large and most importantly I’d say that most of us care deeply about our families and ourselves.

The world is a confusing and scary place; hey….another thing we can agree on.  Again this is overwhelming and most would agree on that too.

This proves my point and here is my point in a nutshell: we can agree on something. We can find common ground and this is where we can start. Next comes the listening. As I’ve mentioned no one can be 100% right about everything, at the very least we can agree to disagree and then move to what we agree on.  There is too much at stake to just shut our eyes and ears to everything that the other side has to say….and while I’m at it….this Us vs. Them thing…this sets us up for failure.

We humans have this tribal mentality, it’s hardwired into us genetically.  This need to belong to a group, but somewhere along the line, a long time ago, we humans decided that in order to belong to a group this group must exclude others.  We have trained ourselves to search for differences instead of looking for commonalities.This has led to  much heartache, death and destruction. I don’t have to tell you this.  I don’t know if we can ever get over it, honestly…but I do know that we should try because there is a lot at stake, in fact there is everything at stake.   This tribal tendency goes far beyond our local politics, this enters into every fight, skirmish and war we have ever been involved in…..perhaps this is irrevocable human nature and what I am suggesting here borders on the impossible…

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For the most part there has always been war. Some would say this built-in aggression has been essential to our survival as a species and I would tend to agree. Out of the many humanoids who lived on the planet, only Homo sapiens have endured and that is probably no accident.  We are a product of evolution and humans are capable of great change and growth and we as a species can learn.  I believe we can learn to, at the very least, try to find common ground and listen to each other.  We share this beautifully wonderful and diverse planet. We are neighbors and we are on board this runaway train together.  We have a vested interest in getting along….

So maybe next time you hear someone; a co-worker, an acquaintance who lives down the hall, the man at the bus stop, the woman at the grocery store, even your “cranky” Uncle Pete or anyone for that matter who disagrees with your beliefs.  No matter how vocal that person is, or angry or whatever…even if what they say sounds 100% insane to you.  Remember that no one is 100% correct on anything and we can all learn something from everyone…so open your mind and your heart.  Show some compassion (even if they have none themselves) and listen….please.

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The world needs leaders, the world needs compassion, the world needs you and I… and even cranky Uncle Pete.

Thanks for listening,


“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” ~Albert Einstein~


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34 thoughts on “Us and Them”

  1. Brill image at the top, stopped me in my tracks 🙂
    An ace article as well, but I think we are at the controls. OK, maybe the decision to rape mother earth of her natural resources and dance on her ashes wasn’t mine (not being that stupid). But ‘with our thoughts we create the world’ (Buddha). I’m sure you’ve made this point before as well. The responsibility with where our world’s going stops with us.


  2. I am fully eyes and ears on this post, there is a funny thought comes out on me after reading this post,I am referring to the hottest arguments happened in my country recently and your right 100% about ……. no one is 100% correct on anything and we can all learn something from everyone… Show some compassion (even if they have none themselves) and listen…. If all politicians have this kind of principles, this world become more interesting to live in…


  3. A agree with the other comments, Strawberryindigo; these are powerful, yet peaceful words. I love the perspective that no one is 100% right. I love reaching across the aisle even if others refuse to do the same. I love the reminder to listen especially to those who we disagree with. Thank you for this post for peace. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo


    1. Hey Kozo, Thanks for the thoughtful and encouraging words. I thought it a bit heavy for a post on peace but I suppose that sometimes the path to peace is not pretty all the time.{{{HUGS BACK}}} 🙂


  4. Well my friend, I just bought a laptop, installed a 14′ tall broadband antenna and signal booster and your post just beamed into my hermitage in living peaceful color; true strawberry and indigo. Your commentary is always a wonderment.


  5. Excellent post and perfect Einstein quote to go with it. We do so much bad to one another for the sake of coming off “right”, or being declared a winner. I listened to an interesting talk not long ago about the stress we place on winning or not being wrong. In communication, the kicker is that no matter if you feel you’ve yelled the loudest or had the last word, there is NO winning. Your victory has threatened to sever a relationship with the person you’ve “proven wrong”. The speaker stressed to go in to any discussion or interaction with the mindset that you will listen and respond with care. I would love to see what a brilliant change this simple line of thinking could cause in the world.


  6. Hi Strawberry…. I see this all the time on Facebook. At election time it was the politics. Now it’s gun control. I think that everyone is entitled to their opinion and has the right to voice it. But like you, I’m disturbed by the yelling and name calling that get involved. People personalize their beliefs, and when someone doesn’t feel like they do, they often feel the need to belittle the other person’s very existence! It appalls me how rude and bad mannered people can be over these issues.


    1. Hey Karen, I’ve been seeing the gun thing too, it bothers me how divided we all are, it’s so unecessary. On FB, I have friends on both sides and it’s getting crazy…why can’t we all just get along!? Thanks for stopping by, I value your input.


  7. love the scenario of the train, well written, i do hope your post is widely read and understood, because i agree so strongly that we must find what we have in common if peace is to break out on this beautiful planet! thanks for the pingback too 😀


  8. Very nicely put! Learning to just “let be” is one of the most difficult, but rewarding lessons life has to offer. And you are right – haha, to listen is to open up to more.
    Thanks for the pingback and this great post.



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